Let’s be honest, many people want to be powerful on the pulpit but powerless at home. They can quote all the Scriptures in Greek and Hebrew but cannot say, “I’m sorry” to their spouse in plain English. My dear, if your marriage is shaking but your ministry is “booming,” something is not adding up.

Let’s put it like this:
Marriage is the first assignment God gave before the church ever existed. In fact, before there was ever a congregation, there was a couple, Adam and Eve (Genesis 2:18-24). So technically, marriage is older than the church. If God gave it first, then it should be priority, abi?

We see people fasting and casting out demons, but when their spouse says, “Let’s talk,” they suddenly become unavailable or "led" to the mountain. Bros, come down from the mountain and fix your home. Sis, that vision board is cute, but if your home is in disorder, no amount of vision can correct the division.

Here’s the bitter-sweet truth:
It is better for your ministry to struggle than for your marriage to scatter. Ministry can be rebuilt. Churches can be relaunched. But once trust is broken in a marriage, the glue won't be quick  to stick again. And let’s not even talk about what it does to the children, another generation carrying wounds from your "fire-brand" life.

Now, this isn’t to say ignore your calling. No. But if your calling makes your spouse feel abandoned, bitter, or like a prayer point, then who exactly are you winning for Christ?

Paul didn’t miss words in 1 Timothy 3:5 

“For if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?”

The logic is simple: if your first sheep (your spouse) is malnourished, please don’t go and be feeding others outside. Charity, love, and attention begin at home.

So here’s the reminder:
Before you hold the mic, hold your partner’s hand. Before you minister to the crowd, minister peace at home. Before you preach submission, practice humility. Marriage is not the rehearsal, it’s the real stage. Your home is your first pulpit.

Not every time you say “God said…” Sometimes it’s “Dear, how was your day?” Darling can we fix this.That one too is ministry.
Stop ghosting/bea.ting/betraying your partner.

Make God proud, not just with your voice, but with your vow.